Know what you want!

A wish written down becomes a goal.
A goal broken down into steps with a date becomes a plan.
A plan packed with action and nourished by prayer becomes reality.

More on productive goal setting making a vision board here and here.

One thing I learned over the years and am still learning:
the better I know what I want and the more I express my needs and wishes in clear ways, the more precisely it will fullfill.
Actually making:
my visionboard for fullfilled summer holidays
and reading on clear and peaceful communication (Marshall Rosenberg: “Nonviolent communication –  a language for life”)

happy summer dear readers and friends!

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Reality

Alhamdulillah..at least 30 minutes in the morning, a little chunk of quiet time for me…before a new day starts with all the craziness of family life and else…

I miss Ramadan and its peaceful atmosphere…but i really enjoy my morning moments with hot lemony water and coffee when the first sunlight shines through the window, subhanallah… it’s these little blessings in the midst of busy reality that give me energy and power to continue.

Wishing a blessed early summer to all of you!

Blessings of the early hours

The very earliest hours of the day carry a lot of blessings… subhanallah.

In Ramadan I can feel this more than any other time during the year.
We rise up long before the first light on the eastern horizon appears…
actually after only 4-5 hours of sleep, at about 03.00 a.m.,
to take our breakfast, the Suhoor, before we then pray Fajr and begin to fast until the evening.

Many people go after eating and praying back to sleep until the sun shines…
but it was recommended by the Prophet (sas) to stay awake after the morning prayer, to read Qur’an and to take benefit of the blessings of these early hours.

And this is so good and so true!
Yes, it needs some self-discipline, but if you manage to fight your inner little bastard (your weakness/lower nafs’/Schweinehund), to resist the lure of your warm bed and begin to read Qur’an until the golden morning light appears, God blesses you with a very clear and fresh mind, with deeper understanding of His words and with vitality throughout the whole day, inchaallah.

I’ve tested it now several times:
I went back to sleep at 4.00 a.m. because I thought I have to catch up some sleep to avoid sleep-deprivation, thinking that my body would need this, because I normally sleep more than 7 hours to feel well.
But everytime I went back to bed in the early morning, I dreamed strange things, I woke then up with a very uncomfortable heavy feeling, like being smashed, mashaallah. And I always felt tired, irritable and quickly exhausted during the whole day, in the need of lots of sleep and with very low energy.

On the contrary to when I stay up after Suhoor, I lways feel very quiet and full of joy and light, being able to read Qur’an with a clear mind until nearly sunrise, ahamdulillah.
Then I often go into our garden to enjoy the work in the fresh air, accompanied by the singing of the birds, subhanallah. Or I sit in my studio, doing some office-work – much more productive than later in the day.
And the surprising thing is that I do not feel tired or exhausted, even later in the day… I barely need a sleep in the afternoon and feel quickly refreshed after just a little power-nap.

To me, it really feels as if Allah acknowledges and rewards our worship and positive intention with a boost of energy and improved efficiency during this sacred month, subhanallah… despite the common scientific opinion on how much sleep we normally need, He gives us strength and endurance.
Try it out, you won’t regret…

as people say: “The early bird catches the worm” (Morgenstund hat Gold im Mund)

as Allah says in the Qur’an:

“So be patient over what they say and exalt [ Allah ] with praise of your Lord before the rising of the sun and before its setting; and during periods of the night [exalt Him] and at the ends of the day, that you may be satisfied.” (20:130) 

“Establish prayer at the decline of the sun [from its meridian] until the darkness of the night and [also] the Qur’an of dawn. Indeed, the recitation of dawn is ever witnessed.” (17:78) 

great read on this: Khurram Murad “In the early hours”.

wishing you very peaceful and blessed last nights of this Ramadan!
salaam aleikoum.

Tune in for Ramadan

… half an hour before the kids wake up for breakfast…

planifying Ramadan,
how to detox, physically and spiritually…
making plans for Iftar and Suhoor meals, choosing relgious books to read (beside the Quran), getting ideas for the Ramadan calendar and how to beautify our home to welcome the blessed month, inchaallah.

I’ve upated our book list and now wish you all a very blessed month full of peace, faith, love and enlightment !
Ramadan moubarak said!

weekend blues salvation

Alhamdulillah, of course, some days are not as perfect as shown in the last post…
or maybe parts of a day are great and other parts just a mess… mashaallah;

this up and down-thing often happens to me on weekends, especialy when my husband is on travel
and when the rhythm and structure of the every-work-day isn’t given.
Then I have all the five kids to care for and also want myself to calm down and have a rest…
and that’s exactly the challenge… the pressure of knowing that there are only two days to relax, …
feeling sometimes stressed by the limitation of two days and lack of alone-time, astaghfirullah.

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Maybe you know these kind of days, also called weekend-blues or Sunday-depression.

After having had a very bad and sad weekend about two weeks ago, mashaallah, I decided to stablish a “save the weekend”-list,
some strategies and things to do when depression, agression or overtaxaion are getting me:

  • get out, go into nature!
  • writing a gratitude-list
  • taking pictures of beautyful things
  • cleaning out my wardrobe
  • working in the garden
  • writing in my diary
  • drinking herbal tea (especially yarrow/Schafgarbe)
  • reading Quran or self-help books
  • enjoying the sun (if there is some)
  • listening to the birds singing
  • cooking or baking with the kids
  • gettings some inspiration on Pinterest
  • dreaming and creating (e.g. a treasure map)
  • eating chocolate
  • hugging the baby / kids
  • meeting with someone
  • imroving something at home
  • accepting the sadness, indulge and cry
  • taking a shower, caring for myself
  • sleep, knowing that this too will pass…
  • after sadness comes joy
  • pray!

what strategies do you have for those days?
wishing you many perfect days! salam aleikoum and happy spring!

Be a Light

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Many things happen here in Morocco and around the world… a lot of beautiful things, but also shocking ones, mashaallah…
I feel very sorry for the things that happened not far from here about two weeks ago, and I feel with the people who suffer.
These events are really NOT moroccan, they are not mirroring the right image of this country and its hospitable people – I can tell you!
I live here since more than 15 years and really, terrorism and atrocities are not part of the Moroccan’s way of life.
They ALL love to welcome visitors, they love to chat and drink tea with people from all over the world.
I know and believe that Morocco is a safe country to travel and live in. It was and still is and will be, inchaallah.

Yes, there is cruelty in this world. This is a reality. In our personal surroundings, on regional and international level. And sometimes this fact pushes me to the edge of depression, to sadness and hopelessness, astaghfirullah.
But, subhanallah, there is also so much beauty around, so many little seeds of hope.
I see divine order in everything. I begin to understand that all and everything is for the highest good of all who are afflicted.
I try to find peace and strengh in faith and I concentrate on the positive.
I accept that I do not have to understand it all and that I cannot and I do not have to change all things.
But instead of constantly talking about negative news to each and everyone, I can choose not to add to the horror and evil, I can choose to send out only good news.

I ask myself: how can I help to better the situation with the possibilities I have? What part do I have to play in this game? What is my mission as a human being, as part of society, as a believer?
I can strenghten my belief in God’s perfect plans and share it with others. I can begin to spread out love, prayers and blessings.
Instead of blaming and lamenting I can choose to be a positive example of love and light to my family, my nighbours, colleagues…
I can visualize the good. I can dream about a healed and peaceful world.
I can send blessings of peace even to the wrong-doers, knowing that we all need love in order to show our best…
I trust in Allah’s wisdom and know that faith and positive thinking can help to better the world and turn everything for the good, inchaallah.

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Happy Winter to you. May 2019 be a year of peace and light to all.
May He shower His blessings over the worlds!! Ameen.

 

 

 

My daily dose of Positivity #6

 

I sing these affirmations often over the day with a self-invented melody … sometimes in english, sometimes in german…
together with some dua’, dhikr and tasbih (remembrance of Allah), they help me keep calm and stay positive,
even in difficult situations or in moments I would wish otherwise. Subhanallah.

 

Happy Saturday and happy November!