Know what you want!

A wish written down becomes a goal.
A goal broken down into steps with a date becomes a plan.
A plan packed with action and nourished by prayer becomes reality.

More on productive goal setting making a vision board here and here.

One thing I learned over the years and am still learning:
the better I know what I want and the more I express my needs and wishes in clear ways, the more precisely it will fullfill.
Actually making:
my visionboard for fullfilled summer holidays
and reading on clear and peaceful communication (Marshall Rosenberg: “Nonviolent communication –  a language for life”)

happy summer dear readers and friends!

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weekend blues salvation

Alhamdulillah, of course, some days are not as perfect as shown in the last post…
or maybe parts of a day are great and other parts just a mess… mashaallah;

this up and down-thing often happens to me on weekends, especialy when my husband is on travel
and when the rhythm and structure of the every-work-day isn’t given.
Then I have all the five kids to care for and also want myself to calm down and have a rest…
and that’s exactly the challenge… the pressure of knowing that there are only two days to relax, …
feeling sometimes stressed by the limitation of two days and lack of alone-time, astaghfirullah.

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Maybe you know these kind of days, also called weekend-blues or Sunday-depression.

After having had a very bad and sad weekend about two weeks ago, mashaallah, I decided to stablish a “save the weekend”-list,
some strategies and things to do when depression, agression or overtaxaion are getting me:

  • get out, go into nature!
  • writing a gratitude-list
  • taking pictures of beautyful things
  • cleaning out my wardrobe
  • working in the garden
  • writing in my diary
  • drinking herbal tea (especially yarrow/Schafgarbe)
  • reading Quran or self-help books
  • enjoying the sun (if there is some)
  • listening to the birds singing
  • cooking or baking with the kids
  • gettings some inspiration on Pinterest
  • dreaming and creating (e.g. a treasure map)
  • eating chocolate
  • hugging the baby / kids
  • meeting with someone
  • imroving something at home
  • accepting the sadness, indulge and cry
  • taking a shower, caring for myself
  • sleep, knowing that this too will pass…
  • after sadness comes joy
  • pray!

what strategies do you have for those days?
wishing you many perfect days! salam aleikoum and happy spring!

Powerful future-Journaling

Since the age of twelve or so, I am writing a private journal.
With more or less regularity, I was always writing to process my feelings, to find relief, to structure my thoughts, to express my self, to “talk” to someone without risking being belittled or laughed at…

There were times in puberty, when I wrote to an imaginative friend whom I called “Anne” (like Anne Shirley from Green Gables); there were times when I just vomited out a lot of frustration, anger, hate and fear onto the pages; and sometimes I wrote more like a travel journal, about people and places.

Since ten years now, I am also writing this blog, which is for me, as well, a sort of a journal, to share, to report and to remind myself of the beautiful things, but also the ups and downs in my life.
I am still keeping my private journals, for sure; they still help me to keep sane, to hide and to unload in difficult times.

But since a few years, the style of my journals changed more into something I would call “journal of good hope”, “little book of goodness” or “journal of light”…

Over the years, I gave up, more and more, the writing about my frustration, the blaming and lamenting over things, and I stopped keeping my thoughts attached to past negative experiences.
I began to write more like a gratitude-journal, realizing all the big and small blessings in my everyday, talking about the things I am thankful for.

I also started to write more about the way I would love to live, how to be and about the person I would like to become.
And I began to fill the pages with beautiful pictures and photos from magazines to highlight my words, like a treasure map.

Since a year now, I mostly write positive affirmations to empower myself, to get rid of fears and hindering beliefs, to eradicate limiting thought-patterns and to totally reprogram my subconscious mind.
– Very hard work, I can tell you… because there are so many old and heavy beliefs, common valid values and sayings that seem to control my thinking in ways I do not want any more.
My journal now is more something like a wish-journal of how I would like my days, my self and my life to be.

When I feel overwhelmed by a situation or feeling tired, fearful and stressed, I take my little book and write about how I would like to see the situation or the day unfolding in the most beautiful way and how I wish the nearer future to be, inchaallah.

I often now begin my mornings with a cup of coffee and with writing a detailed description (in present) about how I wish everything to happen until the evening- every meeting scheduled, every task, all the chores and duties on my list –
I imagine the whole day in the most positive ways,
I thank Allah for the most beautiful outcome of each and everything, and by doing this, I train myself in prosperity consciousness and I gain a clearer picture of what I really want and aim for… without being lost, and without losing time with useless brooding and rolling problems.

This is magical, subhanallah, it helps me now so often to solve problems without mauling my head. It helps me to calm down and to stay positive despite the many challenges ahead… it really helps to make more and more positive things happen in my life, alhamdulillah, and I see how beautifully attracting this way of journaling is subhanallah.

How do you journal?
Or are you totally new to this?
Here is a nice article written by “living well mom” on another beautiful way of keeping a personal diary and on bullet journaling in general.

 

 

My daily dose of Positivity #7

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A glimpse into my private journal

A note to self and a medley of beautiful inspirational photos cut out from different magazines:

“I love my daily duties; they are a great way to exercise my body and mind!” 

Happy Sunday, dear readers and friends!
I hope you can take advantage out of the affirmations from the last few days –
I wish you blessings and a healthy bit of altruistic egotism – be good to yourselves,
because it is just then possible to be good to others as well !

Love and peace- Salam aleikoum.

 

 

week 33 – nesting

33 weeks of pregnancy and winter is here now…
I feel the need to sit in front of the fire place, to keep warm, to knit (just simple plain knitting – I love the process of it even if I do nearly never finish a piece… and the kids sometimes join me)

and I slowly feel the urge to prepare home for baby, a nesting instinct that comes with the approach of the birth…
wishing you all a warm home, hearth and heart!

 

Autumn on the doorstep…

  1. Happy about the cooler days, finally a bit of much needed rain and the smell of autumn in the air.
  2. Entering the second half of my pregnancy and noticing much more movements of baby.
  3. Struggling with too small waistbands of trousers and sewing (and online-ordering) some maternity wear.
  4. Beginning to wash winter-clothes and feeling close to make fire in the chimney.
  5. Updated the book list.
  6. Participating in politics and important world-actualities by actively voting at Avaaz.org.
  7. A heavy LOT to do in our school with the beginning of the new school-year.
  8. Allowing (sometimes even forcing) myself in this busy crazyness to take some time for me: just reading, relaxing and enjoying the moment.
  9. Enjoying autumn’s fruits: blackberries, pomegranate, plums, walnuts and apples…
  10. Wishing all Muslims a happy new year 1439 after Hijrah!