So many things are going on in my head these days about parenting and kids that I’ve started already three (!) long posts… But none of them is finished at the moment because the topics are quite specific.
So I decided to just let out a bit of my thoughts in general today…
First I have to say, and to say it a hundred times again…: I LOVE being a 24/24h mum!! Alhamdulillah!
It is the hardest thing I ever did in my life, but also the most wonderful.
I know now that nothing else is comparable to this full-time-“job” and if someone never did it, he will not know what it is about.
I become aware of this more and more. I realize what a gift children are and what big responsibility we have for them.
Especially since this year, after the negative Au-Pair-experience and having quitted my home-office-job, I really begin to understand that it is my purpose and duty to fully be there for my kids, to be a loving, respectful facilitator-in-life for them.
I see it clearly for myself now: I have to take responsibility of their education – not the government. At least during the first years, if I want them to grow healthy, I have to care for them myself, to be an example, to be with them – not a Kindergarten-worker, not a teacher or someone else whom I do not even know.
I have to and I want to sacrifice my time for their good.
I read so many good books (Holt, Wild, Montessori, Mazlish, Steiner, Juul,…), I met so many brave, alternative, conscious, mindful and also unschooling people and I had the chance to learn and grow during the last years a lot, so I know clearer and clearer what I want for my own family:
I do not count anymore (if I ever did…) on public child care, on public school, on official curriculum, on the latest educational methods or parenting skills…
I know now that being a good parent means to be ready to question, to learn, to revise, to grow myself every day.
It means there is no magic tool for every situation; there is not a day, not even an hour, like another. It means no child is like another. It means constant changes; it needs a lot of flexibility and self-discipline, but most of all: love, respect and an open mind.
And it means to be ready to explore the world and my own personality together with the child. It means sometimes tears, doubts and self-criticism, it means facing some painful truth (about my own childhood), and it means readiness to change some old behaviour and to try something new.
It means a lot of work and consciousness but also a lot of joy and fun and blessings!!
I had to say this and I could go on and on. I am so full of energy and positive power to accomplish this task of my life.
I don’t want to criticize someone else’s choices about education, but I would love to share my own thoughts that have become so clear during the last years, alhamdulillah, and I want to encourage all of you to take full responsibility for your life and that of your kids, wherever your path may lead!