baby moon – in bed with baby after birth
As a parent there are many choices to make and a lot of different opinions turn around each one. Today I want to share some of the choices we made since we had our first child nearly ten years ago; choices that proved to be good ones and to which we still stick to, now even with the fourth one, alhamdulillah:
- natural homebirth without PDA or other painkillers (thanks God that I never had complications that forced me to go to hospital, alhamdulillah)
- fully embracing baby moon and staying in bed after birth- at least for a week or two (Wochenbett).
This I consider such an important part on the journey of being a new mom; this is the “vacation” you need after pregnancy and birth to become ready for all the challenges as a new mother; this I consider as so important to give your body the time to recover and to fall in love with the newborn. The hormonal ups and downs and the defining of your new role now is already difficult enough, so it is important to rest, to have time to sleep and quiet to think, to be pampered by others in these first days and to have someone who takes care of you, of the household tasks and especially of the older children. I am very thankful, that I had always the luck to be accompanied by very caring people, subhanallah.
- breastfeeding baby: at least 6 month fully (the best vaccination ever) and then slowly beginning to feed food but continuing with breast milk up to two years, inchallah, such as it is ordered by Allah even in the holy Qur’an.
- cloth diapering instead of plastic (I use many different styles, here is some good information for beginners)
- natural fibres, eco fabrics and healthy products for baby. I think it is very important, especially in the first months, to keep baby warm with materials that are healthy and feel good (wool, silk, cotton) and to keep away artificial fragrances (often used in baby products but also mom’s perfume, strong shampoo etc). This time we even made our own chamomile-calendula oil to clean baby’s bud, alhamdulillah.
- co-sleeping and sharing the family-bed (attachment parenting in general)
- carrying and wearing baby in a sling (now, after more than 16 weeks, I am wearing baby also on my back)
What choices did you make and why?
Self-made baby cleaner with olive oil and chamomile/calendula
Treats during babymoon
P.S.: Happy 1435 after Hijrah to all my sisters out there! Salam aleikoum.
Sometimes there is no time to look for a new motive: so here you see again our kitchen, from another corner on a Sunday morning during a few minutes of semi-peace and silence…
When it is quiet on this blog, it usually means that real life is very busy.
For my taste, it is a bit too busy at the moment: with the everyday tasks as a mother of four, alhamdulillah, with a husband who often has to travel, with a whole school to manage and with some serious things to organise…
In the spare moments, when I finally find myself alone, quiet and able to breathe, (during daytime this only happens in the bathroom, and even there I sometimes have a baby with me…) I often feel too exhausted for everything. I then simply enjoy the peace of the moment and the silence around – these are the moments when I really thank God for the energy He gave me to carry so many different things, subhanallah, and these are also the moments when I realize that I have to use my energy wisely and to honour my body and mind for the work they do, alhamdulillah.
Over the years I learned that I really have to treat myself well, especially in times like these. I have to be kind with myself in order to be able to give love and to be good with others.
This wasn’t easy for me to learn and I often neglected my own needs. But I get better on with it and I try now to consciously listen to my own needs and to create some oases of peace (even small, short and tiny ones) in the midst of my hurry-blurry days full of musts and have-to’s.
This is my actual list of small little moments of bliss to treat myself:
- Smiling to myself in the mirror
- Drinking a big mug of fresh and warm milk coffee
- Looking at the happy face of our baby-boy, subhanallah
- Reading beautiful home interior magazines
- Eating a slice of Swiss chocolate
- Massaging my hands with some rich hand cream (Weleda is my favourite brand)
- Taking a little walk behind the house, to get another perspective of everything
- Watching a movie with the children in the evening
- Getting to bed early or sleeping a bit longer in the morning, to have at least 7 to 8 hours of sleep
- Rejuvenating myself 5 times a day during the minutes in prayer and prostration
- Decorating the table with lovely flowers or herbs from the garden.
What is the bliss that carries you through the day?
I keep you in my prayers, especially all the hard working moms out there, and I wish you satisfaction and joy in all what you do.
Peace with you all!
recently I am totally taken by all the different duties around here, mashallah, and with our slow internet connection it actually is extra hard to find time to respond to mails or to blog here. I beg your pardon and hope to find soon more time and space to come back here more often and also to write private mails, inchallah. Until then I wish you blessings, light and love. xxx
It’s been long since I have been here last time. This period of the year is always very intense and this month especially full of things because of some new volunteers and important changes in school, because of our baby and other things going on and needing my full attention, alhamdulillah.
I realize more and more that my role as a leader in so many different areas asks for constant personal improvement and development. The responsibility that comes with all these leadership-roles sometimes nearly overwhelms me and I understand more and more how much I need to grow and to learn myself in order of being capable to hold these roles and to respond to what they require and to what God has entrusted me with, inchallah.
At the moment I am reading a very inspiring book called “Managing the nonprofit organization” (by Peter F.Drucker) – a book I received from Christian Hlade, the founder of the famous austrian travel company Weltweitwandern, who is a role model of a leader himself.
By reading it I learn so much about myself but also about how to guide and how to encourage other people to give their best.
Questions like “what do you want to be remembered for?” or “how can you improve yourself and where can you really make a difference?” push me to work harder on my self, to go further and to aim for higher things.
This sometimes is very exhausting, challenging and needs a lot of energy, but it also gives a deep feeling of satisfaction and sense and it just fits so well with my religion and on what we as Muslims should focus on, alhamdulillah.
What are you working on? What are your personal aspirations?
Wishing you well, sense and joy in all what you do! Masalama.
“Oh Allah I seek refuge with You from distress, grief, incapacity, laziness, miserliness, cowardice, the burden of debt and being overpowered by men“
(a supplication from the Prophet (sas) reported by Al Bukhari)
trying to be in the flow of life, to swim with the rhythm of the everyday, to balance all the different roles, the “must’s” and “have-to’s” in a healthy way, to completely trust and surrender in Allah’s will.
beautiful fish-mobile made by my au pair girl Elisabeth – good bye dear!
Ramadan is the month of prayer and invocation.
There are always so many things to ask and to pray for, and there are always a lot of things we wish for, problems we want to be resolved, needs we have…
But before wishing for something, before thinking of all the things we would like to get, it is always best to praise Allah first and to thank Him for all the mercy He already showered us with. Because truly, subhanallah, there are so many things to thank for.
Whenever I begin to think about all the blessings in our life, the list goes on and on and doesn’t end and I could continue to thank Allah. I become quiet fulfilled and satisfied until I nearly have forgotten what I wish for…
Alhamdulillah, I am so thankful that there is….
…peace and the life we are gifted with,
…delicious food and pure cold water,
…warm sun and beautiful nature,
…the natural smell of our newborn
…a brain to think and a body to work with
…the relaxed laziness of hot summer days
…pacifiers (Schnuller) to calm a crying baby
…the beautiful butterfly that cross-flight our garden yesterday
…my washing machine
…children, family and friends…
Allahu akbar! Life is so good.
Happy ‘Id moubarak to all!
Peace and love, xxx
Salam aleikoum and peace be upon you.
Happy Ramadan moubarak to all out there!
Half of this holy month is already over and I am still on baby-vacation, neither fasting nor praying due to breastfeeding baby and the forty-days-after-birth-time (Nafás).
The sacred atmosphere of this beautiful month is not really reaching me at the moment, mashaallah, because it is true: if you do not fast you cannot really feel the beauty of Ramadan.
It slightly helps me to make Tasbeeh (praising Allah) and Dua` (invocation), to remember Allah, to read prophetic stories and to prepare and participate at the Iftar (meal to break the fast) with other family members who do fast – all of this makes me feel at least a bit the spiritual vibes of Ramadan and increases my Iman (faith), inchaallah,
but most of the time I am still in a baby-blur, trying to adjust to my new role as a mother of four, dealing with hormonal and mood-changes, with after-birth-issues, trying to slowly find a new routine and getting back to normal work and duties, inchaallah.
I am very thankful for the help of my parents and girl-friends who so gently support me in managing the daily-craziness of a big family, alhamdulillah.
Until soon so, – May Allah bless this month for you as a time full of spirituality, love and peace. May He accept your fast, increase your Iman and shower the whole world with His mercy. Xxx
Alhamdulillah, our sweet little baby boy was born at home right after solstice and full moon, on a beautiful summer afternoon, subhanallah.
We are in baby heaven now and I am out of space and time, totally living in another sphere at the moment, trying to savour this blessed no-time as long as possible…
salam aleikoum dear readers and friends and thank you for all your prayers.
Some random pictures of our last year’s various summer activities.
Today is summer solstice, the longest day of the year, subhanallah.
I am still pregnant, awaiting baby and thinking with every contraction that this could be a good day to give birth, inchallah- yes, maybe I am a little impatient…
the holidays are here now, alhamdulillah, there’s not much I have to do and not much I really want to do at the moment – and it feels like blurry times, in between something really important.
Wishing you a nice beginning of summer with an easy living and a happy mind!